Who I Work With

My clients trend in a few noticeable categories. I work with many artists – painters, musicians, writers, etc. I work with couples, or with individuals who are motivated to improve their relationships. And, right now, many of my clients are men between 45 and 70+. They’re successful by conventional measures – good at their work, responsible, capable. But something’s shifted. They’re feeling the weight of showing up for everyone – as husbands, fathers, sons to aging parents – and somewhere in all of that, they’ve lost touch with themselves.

These men come to therapy with an openness to their own emotional and relational vulnerabilities. They’ve figured out that leaning into this with curiosity and courage is better than continuing to avoid it. They want to be present in their relationships without disappearing in the process – without the unreasonable sacrifice, the loneliness, the feeling of being unseen by the people whose love and acceptance they most want. They’re navigating a tension that’s hard to name – wanting to accept their partners, their kids, their aging parents as they are, while also needing to feel that same acceptance in return. Wanting their relationships to change in concrete ways, while knowing they can’t control other people. And underneath all of it, they’re wrestling with how the values that matter to them – loving kindness, justice, integrity, balance – often don’t fit easily into the productivity and work-ethic culture they’ve been successful in.

My approach with these clients is grounded first in what makes sense. I’ll give you a framework for understanding what’s happening – drawing on theory, research, and three decades of clinical experience – so you can see the pattern clearly and understand why you’re stuck. That clarity creates the foundation for something deeper: learning to be open to your experience rather than fighting it, aware of what’s actually happening in the moment, and engaged in what matters most to you. Not fixing what’s broken, but discovering what’s already there.
I also work with women navigating midlife and beyond, and with anyone dealing with major life transitions, or the kind of relational and existential struggles that don’t fit neatly into diagnostic categories.

If you’re not sure whether we’re a good fit, reach out. We can talk.